I listened to a message that really helped me a few days ago. It was talking about forgiveness and how to think of those who do you wrong.
I listened to a message that really helped me a few days ago. It was talking about forgiveness and how to think of those who do you wrong. Basically, I got 5 things from it:
1. Don’t take it personally.
This is one I didn’t get until now. To me, it was always personal. If they did it to me, it was because of me. But I’ve found that most of the people who did me wrong would have did the same to another person. In most of the cases, I was dealing with a self-centered opportunist. I just happen to be near them when they decided to carry out their wicked deeds.
2. People can’t help themselves.
Oh, they can make a choice to do right, but it’s in their nature to act a fool. Getting upset with a sinner is like trippin’ because a dog pissed on your leg — it stinks, it’s offensive, but it’s a dog, what should you expect? So sinners are like dogs; and they aren’t trained. I’m not trying to downcast them, but this is what God calls such people (Rev 22:15; Proverbs 26:11; Judges 7:5-6). Thank God I have a trainer called Jesus Christ who is helping me walk upright like a real man (Proverbs 10:9 KJV).
3. Ask God for his power to forgive.
Some stuff is too hard to forgive in our flesh — it hurts too much. But simply telling God the truth of where you’re at, and that you want to forgive like him will suddenly lead to you forgiving that person, but in God’s power (Phil 4:13; Matt 5:44-48; Matt 6:14-15)
4. Stop thinking about what they did.
I know, for me, this stuff can resurface out of nowhere because it was just so offensive and backwards, but I just have to rebuke the thoughts of anger and replace them with the word of God. God wants to see that person saved and so do I. I pray for their salvation (2 Peter 3:9; Phil 4:8).
5. God will judge them if they don’t repent.
Just know that. It’s not like they’re getting away with it. God will get them for he said, “Vengeance is Mine!” (Rom 12:19) When people sin against you, they sin against God too (Psalm 51:4).
Jesus said this, “Forgive them for they don’t know what they’re doing.” But of course those folks knew they were spitting on him, kicking and torturing him. But they didn’t know they were messing with the son of most high God!
So next time someone messes with me, I’m not going to go to the offense, I’m going to pray for them because they don’t know who they’re messing with, and they ain’t trained. So there’s no need to get offended. They’re the ones who have the problem. And if they repent and ask for forgiveness, forgive them.
I’m not just saying this, it works for me.