Sex is being thrown at men 24/7. Why the overemphasis with sex? We’ll uncover the plan of the enemy to destroy society through men using sex.

Sex is being thrown at men 24/7. Why the overemphasis with sex? Why is the devil pushing so hard for men to do it. We’ll uncover the plan of the enemy to destroy society through men using sex.

This series of articles will expose the three major lies males are taught about manhood. We’ll talk about their consequences, and what real manhood is. The three major lies are these:

  1. Manhood is validated by your ability to compete with other men and win.
  2. Sex with different women and the favor of women validates manhood.
  3. Any acknowledgment of weakness, pain or hurt is effeminate.

We’ve already talked about lie number one, now we’re on to the next.


Lie 2: Sex with different women and the favor of women validates manhood.

From a young age, most males have heard that sex with females matures them into a man. So boys run out to practice something they have no understanding of—seeking the validation of their peers and self-esteem through fornication.

The known virgin at school is made fun of for not “getting laid” last weekend like the rest of the “men.” So most boys lie, and they continue to lie, well into their adulthood, about their sexual experience. Even in some Institutional Churches, those who practice celibacy are ridiculed by those who don’t. It has become a shame to be a virgin in this world.

A woman’s relation to manhood can morph into whether a man is married or not as well. Some husbands will use their marital status as a one-up over men who are single, while some men use their singleness, and access to a variety of women, as a badge of manhood over the man who has “been brought under the bondage” of faithfulness to one woman.

Favor among the ladies

Favor among women and becoming a “ladies man” is necessary to achieve the goal to “plug” as many women as possible. Additionally, being “liked” by attractive women adds points to their man-card. With favor from the ladies comes respect from other men, but also envy from some who don’t receive as much attention.

Being a ladies man has it’s own set of studies as a male must first understand how women think in order to manipulate their emotions and cause them to do things against their conscience.

The image of that well-dressed man with multiple women on his sides is projected throughout film, TV and commercials as the template of manhood. Certain entertainers are highlighted, or being like the local street pimp, or “player” in the community becomes the model to emulate.

America has become a most sexualized society. Everywhere, people are “hooking up,” and “everyone is doing it,” as they say. Why so great of a push towards sex? While sex was made by God and is a normal part of life, why is the devil pushing so hard for everyone to experience it, even earlier than they should? We’ll answer that question in a moment, but first…

The truth

As we can imagine, manhood has nothing to do with intercourse with a female. Sexual intercourse is for the mutual pleasure of the husband and wife, as they share in the unity of marriage.

For those godly men looking to get married, check out my book: Marriage Preparation for Men.

Along with sex comes the responsibility to father children and manage a family. No man unwilling to take on that responsibility should be having sex. No man unwilling to marry the woman he’s pursuing and love her ’till death should be having sex.

To have sex with a woman apart from marriage is a sin against both parties and especially against the Most High. Multiple wives, while permitted in some cases, is problematic; and it’s God’s best that a man only have one wife. To gather more than one wife in America is a sin against the Lord.

Lucifer’s sex agenda

The devil, who fully understands what sex is all about, is using it as a tool to destroy men, and thus society, as a whole (John 10:10). Fornication, sex outside of marriage, is destructive to the human soul.

I will not go into depth about the mystery of sex here because I’ve already spoken about it. But sex, aside from procreation and pleasure, was created by God as a way to bind the husband and the wife together—to unite them through a mixture of their souls.

Sexual intercourse was only designed for two committed people under God’s institution of marriage. Through sex, a portion of a man’s soul is transferred to the woman, and likewise, a portion of the woman’s soul is transferred to the man. This exchange brings them together, and the more they do it, the closer they get.

When you see a husband and wife, you truly see one flesh, as the scripture says (Mark 10:8). God is all about unity. Unity among the saints (John 17:21; 1 Cor 1:10), unity in marriage, and unity between God and his children. This is what sex is about.

With this understanding, can’t you see how problematic it is for someone using the gift of sex strictly for pleasure, while attempting to discard the unifying part of it?

They’re basically exchanging their soul with people who don’t love them and won’t be by their sides, thus leaving their souls void and scattered. But, of course, Satan leaves that part out in his marketing campaign. Let’s look at Satan’s plan to destroy men, the family, and ultimately, society in sequence:

1. Create wounded people

Sex with people who don’t love you, who haven’t made a commitment through marriage to remain with you until death will eventually leave you, and with that, take apart of your soul.

The break-up causes a wound. The exchange of souls with the other party no longer there causes a wound. The circumstances surrounding the breakup (usually selfish) causes a wound. That’s three strikes against your soul, and these are amplified given how long you were together. Now, multiply that by everyone you’ve ever slept with.

We’ve got a lot of wounded people walking around here just from fornication alone. Parts of them are missing, while they possess foreign parts of others, but they don’t know why they’re so emotionally and mentally scattered.

On top of that, let’s add the shame and pain of sexually transmitted diseases that can be left behind. All of this happens to the human soul through sexual activity outside a loving marriage.

Fornicators ignorantly hurt themselves with sex, and then go out to have more sex to feel better about their pain. The stay blind to the root of their own affliction while making their condition worse with subsequent sexual encounters.

Poor humanity, they just didn’t know what they were getting into. They thought they were having fun. But their conscience warned them the first time they were about to do it, but they ignored it. Now they’re bearing the consequences, but there’s hope.

2. Destroy the image of the man

With men addicted to sex and looking to do anything they can to get it, they become self-centered and manipulative. In the eyes of these males, females have become objects of pleasure only to be discarded after use.

A woman discovering that she was nothing but a toy to some selfish man brings some women to the false realization that ALL men, not just the ones that hurt them, but ALL men are manipulative, lust-filled, lying, selfish dogs that only want one thing.

With this great pain that men have causes women, they join forces with others to declare war against ALL men. Most of the time, it’s the good men who pay for the crimes of the guilty. And the cycle continues with good men turning sour after experiencing repeated abuse at the hands of these vindictive she-devils.

These “good men” begin to see ALL women as dishonoring and controlling (if not kept in check), and out to get their attention and money. So they stay guarded and become players as they now relate to women only as sexual objects instead of the supportive helpmates God created them to be (Genesis 2:18). The war between men and women was initiated by Satan, but the saints of God don’t have to participate in it.

3. Fatherless children and single parents

With all the selfishness going on, some of these males aren’t going to stick around to take care of a woman and a child. After all, he wasn’t with her to build a family, but rather to get more points added to his man-card. So when she comes up pregnant, some men are no where to be found.

This leaves children without fathers and women without support, love and care opening up the door for more harm and vulnerability from other dog-men out to prey on broken families.

Some mothers instill their distorted ideas about men into their children causing them to grow up with a hatred of men. Some girls end up being homosexual, while the boys, haven’t been broken down by their own mothers, become effeminate, lacking responsible behavior. There are so many problems people develop with the absence of a father, but there is a heavenly Father that can fix it all (Psalm 68:5).

4. Destroy the image of marriage

People’s view of marriage, God’s institution, becomes skewed, and they no longer think it works because so many relationships are ending in divorce. But the cause of the failure, apart from a misunderstanding of love, are the wounds of fornication. Unhealed wounds from past relationships effect the marriage as the spouses can’t function properly because of what happen.

On top of that, the “fornidating” and the subsequent break-ups after each relationship was nothing but training for divorce. Dating and fornication is about sampling people and moving to the next. The continual practice of it formats one’s brain to do the same thing once they come across a bumpy road in their marriage. Instead of working it out, the spouse becomes expired beef with no alternative but to be thrown out in favor of a fresh piece.

With all these divorces, we’ve got adultery, not just during the marriage, but afterward, when the wayward spouse marries another in a remarriage.

With so many people witnessing these failures, who in their right mind would make such vows to another only to know it’s highly probable that it’ll end in disaster? Most people begin to believe that marriage doesn’t work. “No one honors their vows anyway,” they think. Therefore, staying single and having casual sex is the “safest” option, they conclude.

With few, to no one getting married, society dwindles. Family is the foundation of a strong society. But God’s institution of marriage has become regarded as broken, when it’s really the people who are at fault. But God can repair these individuals and restore their marriages.

5. Take the authority of men

With a man addicted to sex, either in or outside of marriage, he can now be controlled by it. All a woman has to do is withhold sex and the man will bow to whatever demands she has. Those demands have always been the man’s authority. So men now give their authority to their wives or girlfriends; and with the women in charge, the devil is in a better position to control her and thus the man, the family, and the society as a whole.

The woman is an easy target when she’s outside the natural order of God. With no submission to, and spiritual protection/headship from the husband or Christ, she’s easier to manipulate. Therefore society is dominated by women who are ignorantly controlled by Satan.

This is why everything is sensual: so men can give in to their desires and therefore give over their authority to the women. A man’s greatest weakness is the woman because she was made from him. To deny her what she wants is to deny apart of himself, but with the power of the Holy Spirit, a man can resist listening to his woman, but instead, obey the Lord.

6. Eternal damnation

All those who practice fornication and adultery will not inherit the kingdom of God. It’s just that simple. I don’t care if you’re a fornicating Christian or a saint living in adultery to your second spouse while your first is still alive. At the end of it all, everyone who’s practiced these things and did not repent, will be tossed into the lake of fire. It’s Satan’s goal to get as many of God’s creation to end up in the same place he’s going, but God has a plan of salvation through his Son, Jesus Christ.

9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)


The remedy to fornication and it’s effects

So we’ve outlined the plan of the enemy. Some of you may be convicted. Good. This means the Spirit is working and will continue to do so. The first thing you mustn’t do is get into self-condemnation. If you’re in Christ, there is no condemnation for you (Romans 8:1). So stop beating yourself up.

You’ve now realized your error, now you need to believe in God’s deliverance. What’s important to understand is this: no man can overcome sin apart from the Holy Spirit. Knowing all the evils of fornication, along with self-determination to stay away from it will not keep a man unless he’s empowered by the Holy Spirit. No sin can be overcome apart from the Holy Spirit. We must walk in the Spirit.

What that said, here’s the next steps to take regarding all this, if you’ve practiced or are practicing fornication:

  1. Repent and confess your sins and be forgiven (1 John 1:9).
  2. Be born again, if you haven’t already received the gospel.
  3. Commit to loving God with your whole body and soul.
  4. Cut off all avenues that lead to sin: porn, people, etc (1 Cor 6:18).
  5. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower you to say ‘No’ to sin (Titus 2:11-12 NIV).
  6. Command those spirits of lust and perverted appetites to go.
  7. Ask God to sever those soul connections.
  8. Ask God to heal your broken soul (Luke 4:18).
  9. Ask God to heal your marriage, if you’re married.
  10. Confess and apologize to anyone you’ve hurt.

We’ve all got sin and this allotted time on this earth is for us to allow God to fix us. If you want to be fixed, you will be, and thus conformed into the image of Christ (Romans 8:29). It’s not an overnight process—it’s a lifetime process, and at the end of it all, you will be saved. Trust God for your salvation:

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ (Philippians 1:6)

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